Oh the fights, the tears, the whining, the pleading. “But mom, everyone wears makeup at school!” used to be heard at homes of high school aged girls, but the trend is that girls are wearing makeup younger and younger. Parents may set up an age limit, like no makeup until you are 16, but they might end up with a 16 year old who piles on the makeup. Or worse, wears puts on makeup at school and removes it before coming home.
Moms should educate their daughters about makeup, how to apply it subtly and how to properly remove it at night. If mom is not a makeup person, then ask a friend, or visit a makeup counter or store. Girls should be taught that makeup can subtly enhance their look, it’s not meant to change your look completely. Slowly loosen the reigns over the years, educating her along the way. Start with lip gloss at an early age like 12 and add products as she matures.
Lip gloss is very popular these days and this is a great starter product. It adds some shimmer or glossiness to the lips without adding a lot of color. It also comes in great flavors and some even have SPF. Lip gloss can make a girl feel more grown up, and trust me, she will be putting it on 24/7.
All girls want to wear eyeliner, and man do I want to take a wet wipe to some of the 13 year olds I see walking around my mall with 5 layers of black eyeliner on. They think it makes them look grown up, when in reality they look like a 13 year old with too much eyeliner! Mascara should be introduced before eyeliner. A brown mascara can be very subtle but still bring attention to your daughter’s eyes. Choose a lengthening formula as opposed to a thickening one, lengthening will be more subtle. Teach her not to share her mascara with anyone and that it is only good for 3 months after opening it. Mascara is also a great way to learn how to remove your makeup at night. Some oil-free eye makeup remover on a cotton pad will take it right off, followed by her regular cleansing routine.
A soft shimmery eyeshadow is a great look on teenagers and will make her eyes “pop”. The shimmer will draw attention to her eyes and make them look bigger. Shimmery sands, taupes and browns are perfect starter colors. Let her branch out from there to more pastels. She can start by just applying to her lid, and then eventually learn to blend out into the crease. This is still a very natural, youthful look – but don’t tell her that!
Foundation is a hard one because a lot of girls wear the wrong shade, so they look like they have makeup caked on. Take your daughter to a counter, or at the drugstore choose a brand that breaks it down by undertones like L’Oreal True Match to get the proper color. Powder foundations are popular, especially mineral powder foundations and these are great products for teenage skin. They also look very natural. If she is suffering from breakouts, try a concealer with salicylic acid to heal and cover the pimples.
A blush or bronzer should be applied sparingly. I often see girls with bronzer all over their face and they look like pumpkins. Bronzer should only be applied where the sun hits her, her cheekbones, temples, nose and chin. It should be blended out very well so it looks natural. The color should only be 1 – 2 shades darker then her skin tone and with minimal shimmer. Blush should be applied to the apples of the cheeks and provide a natural looking flush.
If she has been mastering the shadow well, eyeliner is the next logical step. Black eyeliner should only be used on dark skin tones, brown will work for most others. Teach her to use a sharp pencil and to line very close to her lash line and to smudge for a more subtle look. First start with the top lash line, and once she has that down pat, she can try the bottom.
By teaching your daughter about makeup and how to apply it, she will appreciate it more not feel like she has to compete with the girls who pile it on. Allow her to grown and express herself with makeup and she’ll be teaching you new tricks in a few years.